Luminary Book Circle ~ Guidelines & Principles
As a facilitator and coach, I have gathered these circles to explore various, mind expanding books. My intention is to blend discussion, connection, and support as we take a look at the deeper layers of the book and how it translates for each of us individually. When working in an intimate group like this, it is important we follow guidelines to make the best use of our time with the utmost respect for each other. These guidelines have been created from my own experiences working with groups over the past decade, as well as other resources listed below.
Sacred trust: All that is shared in this circle, stays in this circle. **Recordings are not to be sent to anyone outside of this circle as that is a violation of privacy and trust.**
Sharing: We will begin each circle with everyone having an opportunity to share. Share authentically from your heart and reframe your perspective to speak in terms of “I,” “me” or “my” (rather than “we,” “you,” “they,” or “them”). Once you finish sharing, please state “thank you” or “I am complete.” The next person does not speak until the speaker has stated this.
Silence is golden: We will not be commenting after each person’s share. We will try to leave time at the end of each circle for further reflection and discussion. This way, we stay on track with our time which is critical for the group.
Safety and acceptance: When we have the opportunity for further discussion and personal shares at the end of our circle, rather than give advice, ask if the person you are responding to would like reflection or to simply be witnessed.
Self monitoring and finding the flow of giving and receiving: Be mindful of both extremes: over-talking/over-sharing or not contributing or participating in the group.
Mindfulness and care for the group: Each person is responsible for the health of the circle.
“The Four Agreements,” by Don Miguel Ruiz are also wonderful for circles as well as life itself. Learning how to integrate these four principles can take a lifetime, so let’s begin…
Be impeccable with your word - speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Don’t take anything personally - nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Don’t make assumptions - find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always do your best - your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
Signal Chat Guidelines ~ all of the above guidelines apply to Signal as well as: :
Turn off your notifications for your own peace of mind.
Witness what people have asked for and nothing else.
Start with the words “Trigger Warning” if the content is extra sensitive.
Read the chat before sending your message - it is insensitive to share something fun or funny when someone is sharing something deep.
You have my honor to do my best in upholding these guidelines and agreements,
Sarah Parsons Yarbrough
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